When you cut yourself off from the rest of us because it is time for you to die and you want to die in private instead of among us who are not, it feels unfair of you to secret yourself away from us. But it is not unfair. You should be allowed to choose who you want with you for the roughest part of the ride. Bless you both.
I grew up in Christian fundamentalism, went to hell, came back, became a Presbyterian then a Buddhist Presbyterian, and now I'm a profane Presbyterian Zen Taoist -- not that I'm into labels or anything. Here's what I've learned so far: The more you know, the more you know you don't know.